She’s back! It's a day late but not even a penny short. Today, Molly talks about acceptance. Do you really need complete love and acceptance of your current life circumstance before you can get the thing (or person) you really want? She says, definitely not. BUT there is great value in accepting where you are right now, and Molly talks you through her acceptance experience and why you’ll benefit from it, too. As always, please share these episodes with someone who might also enjoy and benefit from them! The more you share, the more we grow. The more we grow, the more we can help you grow.
She’s back! It's a day late but not even a penny short. Today, Molly talks about acceptance. Do you really need complete love and acceptance of your current life circumstance before you can get the thing (or person) you really want? She says, definitely not. BUT there is great value in accepting where you are right now, and Molly talks you through her acceptance experience and why you’ll benefit from it, too.
As always, please share these episodes with someone who might also enjoy and benefit from them! The more you share, the more we grow. The more we grow, the more we can help you grow.
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They say that in order to successfully change your circumstance, you have to find acceptance for where you are now. They say that in order for someone to really love you first, you have to really love yourself. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. What if you really hate your current circumstance? What if you're working really hard on your personal growth, but you're still struggling to find real personal love. Does that mean?
You're just stuck here forever, alone and happy. 📍 Longing for more. I don't think so.
Welcome to an all new episode of Molly at this age and anybody version of IMS age, the podcast, proving it's never too late and you're never too old. So just go do that thing. You're always talking about. I am Molly Sider, a certified professional life coach speaker.
Storyteller and the producer of insightful videos, it's more than just your legacy. It's been a few weeks since we've talked dear 📍 listeners and I've missed you. 📍
I have been thinking a lot about acceptance lately, what it means, what it requires, what it looks like and why it's important when making a change. So one of the big things I've been working on changing in my life lately is my home. It's been almost 10 years since I moved to this little apartment and I am ready for something new. No, I am desperate for something new, so desperate that I spend as little time in my home as I have to, because that's how much I dislike it here.
So for the last eight months or so, I've been looking for places to buy. And this past weekend, I found a little home, a few blocks away from where I am now that has all the charm and amenities that I've been searching for. So on Saturday I went to the open house. I walked through the small gates, past the two chairs in the center of the tiny garden and up the front door.
And I could feel a bit of my breath gets swept away. I walked in and greeted the agent. And then as I wandered from room to room and this little updated vintage, two story city home. I felt my heart beat faster and my eyes swell with emotion.
I was in love.
And just as quickly. I was heartbroken. Because as I soaked up the charm of this adorable sunny cottage, I watched all these other people at the open house, do the same thing. Except they were all coupled up wearing gold and diamond wedding bands, sharing in each other's excitement and supporting each other's opinions. Even as I was imagining myself sitting at the kitchen table, sipping my morning tea. I knew that it would be one of them who would get the honor of living in this home. Them with their dual incomes and double the number of hands required to take care of an entire house. It had to be them and not me. A single 46 year old in the middle of a four-year career change. And so I walked back to my little rental apartment, falling deep into a self pity party. Knowing that I only had myself to blame.
See, I could've continued on in my wine career, pushing through the mundane and unfulfilling day to day in order to go home to a house I loved and could afford better on my own. I could have pursued marriage and a family. I could have done a lot of things differently. I wish I knew much earlier in my life about the personal growth work that I do now. If only I had started down this path of self discovery, healing and growth much earlier on than maybe I'd be living in a home.
I feel good in. Maybe.
But what sense is there and wishing that the past had been different? What might change if I were to accept my past and my present circumstance? As a part of my journey forward. What differences might be in my future.
If I focus on all the good stuff about my past and my present, after all the decisions I made back then led me to the person I am today, which is someone I'm quite proud to be. If I do say so myself,
Uh, Having acceptance and even finding love for where I am today. Tiny apartment in all helps me to feel confident, stay present rather than in my head, make better, more informed decisions about my future. It helps me to not settle, to stay in my worth. Create magnetism, strengthen myself. Trust. Have more fun and less dread and so much more. And when I'm really feeling all these things about my current life circumstance in this case, my home. I'm only going to make. Better decisions about my future because it's coming from a place of self-love. Self-worth and abundance rather than desperation.
And of course, this can be applied to a job, a relationship, a home, literally, anything in life. Do I need to fully love my apartment to find my dream home. Now. But I can make it cute and cozy and find joy and have dance parties while living here now, and continue to look for something from a new place of calm abundance. Do I need to have complete and utter love for myself to find a loving and aligned relationship. Definitely not. But if I can find love and acceptance for all of my past behaviors, rather than hiding and resisting my history, the good and the cringe, embarrassing stuff. Life will be way more productive, efficient, and a lot more fun. And I accept that I'll make mistakes in the future, knowing that those mistakes will better inform how I show up the next time.
All of the past has made me be the person I'm proud to be today. And I love that.
So while I do not agree that I need to love my apartment in order to find my dream home or love myself completely to find the right partner. It's much more fun to find appreciation for what I have now. I might even find some love in there. I hadn't even realized yet.
I can't change the past and I only have control over how I show up now. I don't just have acceptance for my current situation. I have acceptance for my past decisions. Knowing that I have always done my best and will continue to do my best in the future and with even better tools than before. And what a relief it is to stop worrying and start accepting. Now, please, excuse me. While I go dance in my tiny rented living room with 📍 its fantastic sound acoustics.
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